The Dawleys

Saturday, February 27, 2010

What's In a Name

Before Dave and I found out whether we were having a boy or girl, we agreed on how the name would be chosen. Dave would choose the boy's name and I would choose the girl's name, but we would both have to agree on the name. We both had a very strong instinct that we were having a boy, and seeing as they say 80% of parents-to-be are right on their instincts, we had to be right! So we agreed on the name Benjamin. Well as you know by now, we are the 20% of parents-to-be that are apparently out of touch with their instincts! We were thrilled to find out that we are having a girl, but panic set in as I realized that I didn't have a name I loved.
A name is such a huge commitment. I think back to being a girl and doodling the names of my future kids (am I the only child that ever did that?) and I cringe at some of the names I liked (which I won't mention so I don't offend anyone who may like those names). How can you pick a name for your child and be sure that you'll still like it when they're 5 or 10 or 30? One thing I knew is that the name had to be classic. I didn't want a trendy name that would in a few years make me cringe like the names I liked in childhood. Dave and I both seem to be drawn to more classic names so at least we agreed on that. Dave's first choice for a girl was Audrey and while I adore Audrey Hepburn, I don't like how the name sounds with our last name. Fortunately, one of my stepsisters named her baby Audrey so I could safely eliminate that name without any hurt feelings. :) As I continued to think about names, I remembered a cat that we had a few years ago named Bella. We loved that name before the days of the Twilight books, but it's a little overused now. Bella made me think of Stella, but Dave found that to be little too harsh. From there we decided on Ella. A simple and classic feminine name that sounds good with our last name.
The middle name was pretty easy to choose. Do I go with a pretty name that I like and that will not embarrass Ella when she's in trouble and I call her by her full name?:) Or do I choose a name with meaning? I decided to go with the latter. As a child, I always disliked my middle name, Bernice. I just knew I would never pass it on to my children! Now that I am older though, I can't imagine not passing it on. I still don't like the name, but it means something to me. Bernice is the middle name of my grandmother (my dad's mom), my great aunt (my mom's aunt), my mom, my sister, and myself. Two sides of the family! While the name doesn't sound good to me, it is a name shared by some amazing women in my life. What greater gift to share with my own daughter?

Thursday, February 25, 2010


While I am always thankful for this pregnancy, aches and pains and all, I have been reminded even more this week that each second should be cherished.
I have kept in touch via Facebook with two sisters that I used to work with at the daycare. One sister due a week after me and the other due a week after her. All of us expecting girls. The sister due a week after me went in for an ultrasound on Monday and they found no heartbeat. At 32 weeks, she'd lost her baby. It is completely heartbreaking and something that has hit me really hard. Tonight she posted pictures of her baby, which disturbed me greatly, but I understand is something that is probably helpful to her. I can't imagine the pain she and her family must be going through. Please say a prayer for them.
This has reminded me that every discomfort I feel in these remaining weeks should be welcomed and every kick and poke should be cherished more than it already is. And while I anxiously count down the weeks and days until Ella's arrival, I should appreciate each and every day because nothing is guaranteed.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

My Common Pregnancy Questions

Throughout my pregnancy, I have been asked many questions (although not as many as I anticipated) about my vegetarianism. While family have not asked me these questions, I realize that you still may have the same questions that friends and coworkers have, but may be hesitant to ask. I figured this blog post would be a good way to show some of the questions (and my answers).

How will you get enough protein without meat? Where do you get your protein? It's very easy for me to get more than the recommended daily amount of protein, even during pregnancy. Protein sources include beans, nuts, seeds, tofu, tempeh, veggie burgers and other mock meat, soy milk, and whole grains such as bulgur or sprouted grain bread.
Is it safe to be vegetarian during pregnancy? A veg diet is healthy during all stages of life and is supported by the American Dietetic Association.
Won't you become anemic? Even meat-eaters can become anemic during pregnancy. There are plenty of iron-rich vegetarian foods such as tofu, beans, green veggies, pumpkin seeds, whole grains, and vegetables (particularly some of my favorites like sweet potatoes, kale, and broccoli). And by eliminating caffeine (which blocks iron absorption) and including foods high in vitamin C with those iron rich foods, I am able to absorb more of the iron I eat.
Where do you get your calcium? Nondairy milk, yogurt, and cheese. Tempeh, almonds, and green veggies are other good options. Cow's milk is not the only source of calcium. And when you think about it, cow's eat greens (if they're lucky enough to graze) and those that are fed feed (which is the case with more than 90% of our milk supply) are given calcium supplements. But if an animal as large as a cow can get plenty of calcium from grass, then it makes sense that we should have no problem getting enough calcium through different leafy greens.
Don't you have to take special supplements? The only nutrient that is not readily available in a vegetarian diet is vitamin B-12. This is because B-12 is found on bacteria and bacteria grows on meat since in reality it is decaying flesh. Vegetables have a small amount of B-12, but since we wash our vegetables, they are not a dependable source. I get my B-12 from fortified non-dairy milk and through my multi-vitamin. The good thing with B-12 is that the body stores it. Most people have a supply of B-12 in their bodies that will last several years.
People are meant to have meat. Humans can't survive without it. (This comment came from a biologist at work.) Carnivores cannot survive without meat. Humans are not carnivores. We cannot chase after animals and kill them with our teeth and nails that are very weak in comparison to a carnivore's. We have to season and cook our meat in order to safely eat it. Carnivores eat their meat raw. We also have extremely long instestines compared to carnivores. They are able to quickly digest meat in a matter of hours, while meat sits rotting in our intestines for days (which ultimately leads to a lot of diseases). For centuries, humans have been able to survive without meat and get the adequate nutrients needed for survival.

These are the biggest questions I've been asked and hopefully I haven't bored you too much! I promise to post about something more interesting next time. :)